Because we’re motivated hard working people, we want to achieve a happy and successful life. But sometimes this feels a bit vague or illusive and we need to plan and achieve that life without wasting time and energy. We do this by setting up a routine and habits to enjoy each day and love our lives.
This is what this article is about: Building your day so it ties in with your definition of a happy and successful life and enjoying the day you’re in.
It’s great to have a sense of overall life purpose but we want that sense of purpose to infiltrate into our daily routines and responsibilities. Then we end the day with success and fulfillment. To do this we need to define our best lives first.
How we define happiness and success will differ between us, but often we define it in the following four ways;
Our definitions of a happy and successful life can become daunting and vague. We’re ambitious and hard working but we need vision and clarity so we can work well and achieve what’s meaningful to us. Then we look back on our day with peace and achievement. For this, its helpful to define what your best life means.
I define this as practices for living a peaceful, purposeful and productive life that shows up in our daily habits and plans.
At a deeper level it is a life that is rich in character (who you are), connection (who you’re with) and calling (your life purpose and mission). I talk about this in two articles here and here. These concepts are the foundation of my writing and counseling/ coaching process.
Your best life is defined by you and incorporates your personality, values, culture, beliefs and preferences. Therefore it is specific to you, your life circumstances, and is changeable when you need it to change. I work from a person Centered and solution focused approach, which means you are the expert in your life and you have the capacity and strengths to define and plan your best life. I recommend you adapt these steps to your personal values, goals and personality as I mentioned above.
Part of the process of enjoying each day does involve understanding your dreams and goals for the future.
We need to know what we’re aiming for so we can plan each week and day, but It’s this planning process that allows you to focus on the day and feel the achievement of a day well used. This includes time with people and planning rest.
Daily purpose doesn’t mean a day of working to exhaustion and draining yourself. When you plan well, you can focus and choose habits and activities that narrow your decisions and behaviours so you have more time for rest, family and enjoyment.
In this article I offer a six step plan to living with daily purpose and planning so you can enjoy your day and love your life.
This process is central to the coaching I provide women in professions who are smart, ambitious and want to enjoy each day, succeed in work and love their lives. This process involves the design of your life folders, which is a conceptual way of defining and planning your best life and living it in daily habits.
Below I’ll describe these steps in detail and some research behind them. My aim is to inspire you to make a workable plan and daily habits to build your best life.
The process helps you separate the components of your life (folders) so you can visualize the end goal and make habits to improve and thrive in this areas. All areas interact but the folders concept brings clarity and vision to the surface. You can then set goals, and make clear simple plans and habits to enjoy your day, succeed in work and love your life.
Have a read through the six steps and jot down some thoughts about each stage. keep these handy because i’ll be delving into these more in 6 upcoming articles.
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